Is change really possible? ……

Posted by on Jan 28, 2020 in Depression Counseling

Is change really possible? ……

It’s a New Year,  it’s a fresh start, it’s a new beginning.  Who you were last year,  should be bigger, better and an improved version this year.  This is not to say that everyone needs improvement, if you are fine with who you are, then change is not necessary for you.  This is for everyone else who wants change, because there are some things in their life that they would like to improve.  Every year brings new hopes and dreams along with it.  Some of us would like a fresh start at failed endeavors or at least a do over of certain things.  However, nothing changes until you change.  Meaning you will have to change some of your perspectives,  mind sets, and thought patterns, which can eventually lead to a change in your behavior; before you will be able to see any real changes.

Change is an action word and it’s something that only you can do, no one else can do it for you.  This is why “change” is such a difficult thing to accomplish.   It takes motivation, dedication, it takes strength and endurance and most of all it takes hard work and a made up mind.  If change was an easy task,  most individuals would have a changed life, but it isn’t.   Thought patterns, bad habits and rituals, simply put, are hard to break.  Most individuals like the idea of change, but when given the opportunity, most fail miserable.  They start out willingly and excited to do it, but once they realize that change is an ongoing process, that really takes an inner commitment, they slowly fall of the wagon.  

This is what happens with most “New Year” resolutions. It simply does not last, the excitement slowly wears off and old habits begun to rise up again. Slowly but surely they end up winning, over all the “new things” that were going to be accomplished in the new year.  We get excited, we have all the good intentions to keep it going, but once the excitement starts to die down, we quickly lose interest or make up excuses as to why we can’t continue.  Our old ways start to manifest themselves, we slowly revert back, usually with a pseudo-rational reason to ourself, why we couldn’t go through with it.  To anyone who has made real changes in their life, kudos to you.  It takes courage, to go against old habits and patterns that are no longer working for you and too shake things up.  There is a realm of uncertainty that goes along with that, but a truly made up mind is usually unstoppable. 

If we continue to do the same things and expect different results,  then according to Einstein that’s the definition of insanity. Until you change some things about yourself, there will never be any growth.  One can be stuck in the same cycle for decades.  Life will keep doing what it does, it’s up to you to make the necessary changes for your own individual growth. Like stated before, no one can do this for you.  So with a new year upon us,  new hopes and dreams are at your finger tips, but can you really bring them to pass? That outcome will be solely up to you.